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Fortunately I am married with a wife who is as keen on naturism as I am, if I were single I can see that opportunities would be very limited due to widespread "no singles" policies.
On the the other hand we have witnessed behaviour of men that can make women very uncomfortable, our first ever nude beach was Bredene in Belgium where we witnessed a lone male maturbating, at Benalnatura in Spain we have seen men standing on the rocks with erections and men standing on the shore line just staring onto the beach for lomg periods of time.
It does seem to me that clubs and resorts are better able to monitor and enforce acceptable behaviour, yet its clubs and resorts that ban single males, why ?
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The sad thing is that a small minority of idiots who abuse naturism can ruin it for others. They can tar all single men with the same brush and put off women/couples/families. But there are idiots (both men and women) who do horrible things everywhere but no one blames a street for a flasher, or a dressed beach/park/swiming pool for bad behaviour of an individual - they blame the individual. Yet when naturism is involved they blame naturism - and that is unfair. Particularly as I would say the vast majority of naturists are actually kinder, more respectful, friendlier and more trustworthy than the vast majority of non-naturists. There is good and bad in all aspects of life and they should be put in perspective and not be allowed to damage naturism.
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One has to ask the question, was it the behaviour of a none naturists in the past, being lewd that is the reason today that single male naturists have been placed on a quota? We would be really interested in knowing, just how many clubs have actually had incidents of sexual misconduct at their clubs? It would be interesting to see if this is a big problem, or it has been just a few issolated incidents within naturism's past.
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I have always got the feeling it isn't so much about fearing the behaviour of single men but more about keeping the numbers down so naturism appears more balanced particularly if there is a limit to spaces/membership. If a club has 80% men then it will be harder to encourage women than if it has a 50/50 ratio - even if it ends up turing more naturists away over time just because they are single male. It is a little like the reverse of positive discrimination. Now what would that be called? Oh yes discrimination. Simply because of being a man - I am not saying that it is more or less worse than deciding men are not welcome due to believing they are predators but I do think if that is the main case it is simply wrong too.
Which ever the reason it would be wrong if a club put a limit on single women, or based on the colour of their skin or being LGBT - so how is it alright to deny men due to a ratio or due to an idea that a small amount may be pests?
There is also no doubt that the most obvious reason that jumps to mind is that they are limited because they cannot be trusted - which can only do harm to how non-naturists see us and makes male naturists feel unwanted.
Like you mentioned earlier it is men who also will protect the club/beach/naturism. When Steve saw a bloke with his shorts around his knees looking down at a couple of women on the beach it was he and not the women who shouted at the bloke to clear off and made him do exactly that.
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we find your point on ratio's very interesting, Anna. We can understand the how it looks scenario, and yes, a 50/50 ratio paints a very rosie picture of all things equal, but, from what we have read and heard in conversations, a great many naturist clubs are struggling, which is why there are far less today, than say 20 years ago. Rising costs and dwindling numbers in the memberships from death etc.. have hit clubs hard.
It appears to us, that opening the doors to single men would indeed go a long way to solving both those problems, and influx of male members would certainly aid repairs and renovations, and swell the clubs coffers. It does feel a little like cut off ones nose to spite ones face, and appears to be a self destructive policy, especially if it bring about the end of a clubs history.
We cannot help but wonder why clubs would do something their national bodies wouldn't, or for that fact, why national bodies turn a blind eye to this, because they are aware it is going on, as it is a regular topic on the national forums, we wonder why they do not address this?
We feel there is a lot of single males out there who would be delighted to jump in and help out, it is sad they do not have that chance to. We would love some single ANW members on here to comment and let us hear what they think.