There is that wonderful balance isn't there. When I chose clothes I chose clothes I like, my only concern is really whether or not my clothes are clean or tatty. When I first saw Rin's hair it never occurred to me that it was based on anything but the fact it appealed to her, she just doesn't appear to be wrapped up in being concerned about being applauded for her choices or gaining attention for them. Maybe that is the big trick. I used to play with clothes when I was younger, not fashion but attempting different things. Not for attention, I have always disliked attention from strangers. But I do like to give and receive attention from my loved ones. I once went round London in a slightly oversized T-shirt that I liked with no shorts or trousers or shoes, not to get attention but just because I felt like it. I realised that actually it must be similar to what women feel like all the time in a short dress. I have no interest in wearing dresses, because they are designed for people (primarily women) who have different tastes to me, but if a range of dresses existed that were geared more towards men, that suited my own tastes and body shape then I would like to wear such things. Basically I feel that women are very lucky to have single items of clothing they can wear but I have no wish to dress in anything feminine, just as I wouldn't want to dress in other clothing that wouldn't suit me both physically and personality wise. If "men dresses" were a thing and not the height of fashion (I wouldn't want to be a dedicated follower of fashion), but just a normal part of clothing, then I would certainly wear them.
I love the fact it is young girls and old women that love Rin's hair (or at least are comfortable enough to admit it). Youngsters and oldsters show similar attitudes towards naturism. From the teens through to middle age it is worry, worry, worry. Youngsters have not learnt to worry and oldsters have realised that life is just too short and it is a waste of time.
When I am in clothes I do feel much more self conscious, the less clothes the more self conscious. I feel naked in a swimming costume, isn't everyone judging me? (well obviously they really couldn't care less) and don't like going around with shorts and no top. (do people think I am really fat? he shouldn't be like that at his age? he could do with a bra let alone a t-shirt). The truth is that no one notices me, but I basically feel more exposed when semi-dressed than naked. When I am naked, I relax, I still don't like certain parts of my body, I still wish I could lose a bit of weight, but I no longer think other people think that about me. I think that there is an idea that those who wear less clothes are after attention, so when I am partly uncovered I worry people are thinking "does he fancy himself?" or "does he think he is muscular enough to be topless?" etc. But when I am naked i think people just think, he has removed his clothing not for effect but because it is sensible, more comfortable and/or he is at ease with his body. Maybe that is part of it? Is it that being partly dressed suggests I want to be naked, but I am a little ashamed or embarrassed.
Wearing minimal clothing could be seen as teasing, tempting, luring, flirting...being naked is simply being naked. Accept if you show awareness of that nudity. Walking around naked but with your hands in front of your breasts or genitals is using parts of the boy to dress other parts. Calendar girl style images, although funny in calendars, are replacing obstacles for clothing. For naturism to really work and for the removal of that exhibitionism we have to be relaxed about our nudity in so much as we have gone past that state of undress and found a completely new layer underneath the clothes, our natural skin. We have step out of that last garment and have no wish to pretend we haven't. We are just as relaxed as we would be in a full jump suit and behave as if we were in that jump suit. Not considering what our body is doing or what is showing either in a covering up way, shameful way or a parading yourself around way. If when you are naked you feel fully dressed but a lot more comfortable then that is naturism. Maybe we are dressed in skin-suits? Fully covered and completed relaxed just as nature intended, just as we were born to be, and with no concern as to how are genitals appear or whether people can see our breasts, because they are just part of the skin-suit and no more worthy of small part of material, fig leaves, hands in selfies or carefully placed balls of wool in photographs than any other parts of our skin-suits.
And where is the logic anyway? Most people don't like something about their bodies. Their nose, the mole on their back, their left big toe, their belly button. Yet given the opportunity to pose nude do people consider bending down and placing a hand over their knee or making sure that fruit bowl is placed in a suitable way for hiding that wart on your elbow? No the arm goes across the breast or the legs fold over the knee to hide the genitals. To me in a naturist situation the skin-suit allows total naked equality, no exhibitionism and no shame, and that is perfect. Despite all our imperfections our skin-suit compliments us brilliantly, it is the perfect, made to measure outfit, that is respectful of the whole body.
This post was edited by
Steve ANW
at January 31, 2022 9:37 PM GMT
